Prepare for big feelings!
8. Talk about drop off & pick up & nap time (what you will do at drop off, how nap looks at school, and that you will be back after nap time and yummy snack time to give them a big hug!) Maybe make a special plan for ice cream after their first, big, brave, new day at preschool!
9. Give them ideas about what they can do when they feel sad or worried – hug your lovey, look at mommy’s picture and go to their new teacher for a hug. (She’ll be there for you when mommy is at work.)
10. Describe how other kids might play with them, body safety, how to be a nice friend & how to ask for help when they need it from their new teacher/caregiver. Empowering their voice and understanding of the situation they will be in on their first day of preschool and beyond, will greatly help them feel more safe, comfortable, at ease, confident and ready to play and learn!
Keep the conversation going!
11. Ask them who they met, who played with them or their favorite toy from their first day of preschool /first week of preschool. Tell them something about your day and what you guys are going to do next (get home and play for a bit then get their favorite dinner ready/watch a show/give their dog a goodie…) Creating a regular ‘get home from preschool’ routine can give them something to look forward to each day and keep them calm and flowing through transitions more easily.
12. Ask if they want to take anything else with them for tomorrow. Sending toddler to preschool with a thing or two they choose and find comfort in, can help them feel good, calm and ready to be a part of the preschool bustle.
13. Ask them how they want to spend their special after school time with mommy.
14 (BONUS!) Ask the preschool teacher to keep you looped in on how your toddler is doing through texts and pictures throughout the day. This will help your momma nerves and heart too, if you are feeling anxious and emotional about this fist day of preschool (first week, first month of preschool!) thing.
Conclusion
No more wondering – how can I prepare my toddler for preschool??
These tips are especially helpful if your toddler is slow-to-warm, attached to you or nervous about starting preschool.
Remember, it can take time and practice for your toddler to get used to this new place, new people and new routine, and to sort out all of the feelings they have about it…
Have those pre-preschool prep talks with your toddler, read them some books for the first day of preschool, keep looped in with their teacher and continue to ask them about their days and how they feel, how they played, what they loved most about their day at preschool.
How long does it take for toddler to adjust to preschool?
Give them time, practice and don’t freak out just yet if on the first, second and third day they are still adjusting. Truthfully, heavily depending on your toddler’s temperament, they can take 2 weeks to a month or so to adjust. That is if they are full time and going consecutive days. 2 weeks is the typical timeframe I see most toddlers need to adjust to most newness – potty training, new shoes, no paci, a different drinking cup, new foods, etc.
Over the years, I have noticed that toddlers in part time care can struggle a little longer with the transition because they are spending less time at the new place and have longer stretches away, which means they don’t have as much time to adjust.
Not to worry! If your toddler is part time in preschool, you can ask for the support you and your child need from the teacher/teachers, keep the conversation going about their feelings and what they can do to feel better and have more fun, more often. And of course, if you feel like it just isn’t a good fit, you can make a plan to try something/somewhere else.
This is just the very beginning of their social and more formal learning journey, there is plenty of time for you and them to adjust at their own pace, with the support they need and deserve.
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