Regression happens when a potty-trained child starts having regular accidents, which might necessitate going back to diapers. But while the set-back can be frustrating, it’s also completely normal, and it can usually be fixed by figuring out the cause. -Parents.com

Here are a few reasons why potty training regressions happen & how to handle them:

1️⃣ Constipation experience/fear of how it feels to go. There are two main reasons for constipation: withholding and diet. Check here for a great article on how to handle constipation, and click here for how to handle fear when potty training.

In cases like these: As for diet – try adding foods with high levels of soluble fiber and more water, regularly, until problem desists. Always check with your pediatrician with concerns.

In cases like these: As for fears – try addressing them directly and finding things that help comfort them/minimize their fears. A peace corner can be a great tool for this. 

2️⃣ A major life change. Transitions like going to daycare/preschool, welcoming a sibling and moving, can create stress for all. Often times, toddlers will experience a regression when going through such changes.

In cases like these: It’s always helpful to regularly discuss upcoming changes before they happen, books read repeatedly can help too. Knowing that these changes can cause regression will keep your stress level down and allow you to work through the challenges with less frustration. Asking the new school for support can be a huge help, and slowly working back toward being fully potty trained with a manageable plan given your new situation, will keep it low stress for all.

3️⃣ Health problems. Illness and other major health problems can cause a regression.

In cases like these: Give yourself and your child grace, exercise extra patience and do what you need to until you/your little one is feeling better. Always consult your doctor with any concerning health problems.

4️⃣ Distractions. This park is so fun, this game is so fun, I haven’t seen my friends in a while…. It can be surprising, but sometimes even a toddler who’s been fully potty trained for a year can have accidents:  ‘because I didn’t want to leave my toys’/‘because I was playing’, whoops they didn’t even realize because they were so caught up focused on xyz…

In cases like these: Showing understanding, asking how it feels, and reminding what to do, can help move past these types of accidents quickly. 

For example: “I know you love digging in the sand and the potty is far away but does the wet underwear and pants feel good on your body? Now we have to leave the sand to go change your clothes. Next time, go to the potty instead and you can come right back to play!”

Unlike adults, toddlers will often repeat the same mistake or behavior over and over again. Repetition and consistent help, plus age-appropriate consequences, will help your toddler get back on track in a shorter amount of time. 

So, you may find yourself repeating the above example all day or for a few days. Try and remain as calm as possible and as often as possible. Deep breaths help for calming stress that comes with continued unwanted behaviors.   

Once you’ve identified what the cause might be, you can come up with a plan to get back on track. Flexible is one of the best things we can be as moms, despite how challenging that can feel at times, it really does allow us less frustrations, less stress and more joy, despite all of the challenges we face in this beautiful mess called motherhood. 

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